Step parents play one of three roles:

As a new step parent you often need to play the babysitter role. Your spouse needs to tell your step child he or she is expected to respect the rules you enforce in their absence; just as they would do if a babysitter was hired.

With time, you’ll move into the role we call “the cool aunt or uncle.” At this stage we encourage you to schedule one-on-one “date nights” with your step child that revolve around his or her interests. You’ll have limited authority in this season. But, be patient. You’re earning the right to have more.

Eventually, you’ll move into the seasoned step parent role. This is when your relationship with your step child naturally includes discipline, nurturing, guiding, teaching and counseling.

Do you need help establishing and understanding how to operate in your current role? Contact us today to get help from our blended family therapists.